tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10139378.post115319351290478775..comments2023-11-02T04:09:25.628-05:00Comments on Filosofia y Flores: Lament on the Occasion of Friend's EngagementE.A.Phttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08412076189760062421noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10139378.post-1153367583979934392006-07-19T22:53:00.000-05:002006-07-19T22:53:00.000-05:00Mair - DO NOT ENTICE ME WITH TALK OF LIVING IN MY ...Mair - DO NOT ENTICE ME WITH TALK OF LIVING IN MY BASEMENT. To Quote Oscar Wilde "I can resist anything but temptation." I'm sorry I only articulated it and did not really enhance what you thought, but I think we're both there, staring at the same stories and wondering if things could be better if they were different. Getting our bearings is a start, but only a start.<BR/><BR/>CharlesPierce and J Morgan - We really should go there - I read an article that says Buenos Aires is the Prague of the 2000s with bang-for-your-buck tourism. Also, steak and wine and no jet lag. Just sayin'. And thanks for the compliment, J, since it was your words that really brought that line to mind. <BR/><BR/>Redhurt - you make an interesting point about personality. I have no doubt that plays a hand in my reaction to my circumstances. I think there IS something to be said for more indepth discussion when the daily grind can't interfere. I guess it's an extension of the idea that when you live in DC, you never go to the monuments or museums because YOU LIVE THERE, but when you visit DC you have to hit all those up or you missed out. The bigger things in life stand out when you don't have to go grocery shopping. And I should say, too, that your idea of being more fluid in relationships and taking the change as it comes is a better articulation of what I've done. In order to embrace my life, I've had to embrace the cast list changing, and I didn't mention this, but I think I see the strength of my friendships more across those miles and months. It's a testament to God's gift of connection that it transcends time and space like that. <BR/><BR/>Don Quixote - Thanks. I was feeling particularly tuned into my emotions as I wrote this. In your example, I was walking by the room and noticing the absence. Most days I'm walking by on a mission, or I look at it with wistfulness. I don't regret the turns life has taken, but it has closed some paths off to me and made me leave friends behind. You know better than I that some days you can't help but seeing what's missing.E.A.Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08412076189760062421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10139378.post-1153239252787561972006-07-18T11:14:00.000-05:002006-07-18T11:14:00.000-05:00Wow - really great post! Thanks for sharing so mu...Wow - really great post! Thanks for sharing so much of your thoughts and feelings and past - it's really interesting.<BR/><BR/>I have a pretty different experience specifically because I'm not a face-to-face person. I'd much rather have all of you guys living close also, but the daily emails and blog entries I exchange do quite a lot to make me feel connected and surrounded by you friends.<BR/><BR/>While this is nothing profound, I feel like we simply have to make conscious efforts at community, and that this is harder for some people than others. I think we have to purposefully view our interactions with others as fluid and changing, and allow ourselves to be authentic and vulnerable in the moment on a daily basis.<BR/><BR/>But I sympathize some with what you're saying about saying goodbye, and the sense of sadness and loss that can create. I hope you can find community and friendships to help you heal from that, because I think we're meant to be whole, and too many goodbyes can do something to sever a person.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I'm rambling, but again, excellent post.RJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02716003236306728379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10139378.post-1153237530457980872006-07-18T10:45:00.000-05:002006-07-18T10:45:00.000-05:00Dearest E. This was a beautiful post. Thank you f...Dearest E. <BR/>This was a beautiful post. Thank you for being so self-revealing. You gave a great biographical account of the very thing I was trying to intellectualize on my post. (Yes, I just made up the word "intellectualize" - social scientists can do that sort of thing.) Anyway, I wanted to say - IF I COULD I WOULD MOVE INTO YOUR BASEMENT SO WE COULD DRINK TEA AND GO SHOE SHOPPING EVERYDAY!!!!!!!!<BR/><BR/>Seriously. But, you really did articulate what I was touching upon and I appreciate it. (And I miss you and staying up way too late (under the guise of going to bed) talking in our tiny room in MEP).Mairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07091228152989017255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10139378.post-1153234693160132242006-07-18T09:58:00.000-05:002006-07-18T09:58:00.000-05:00"Our means of connection are growing and shrinking..."Our means of connection are growing and shrinking at once."<BR/><BR/>I think that is exactly right. This is a really good and insightful post that, in one way or another, I think most of us can relate to.JMChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03881349417962495204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10139378.post-1153231731523115552006-07-18T09:08:00.000-05:002006-07-18T09:08:00.000-05:00Let's go to Argentina sometime. Sweet.Let's go to Argentina sometime. Sweet.CharlesPeircehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12579865233393399422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10139378.post-1153197415239839662006-07-17T23:36:00.000-05:002006-07-17T23:36:00.000-05:00Beth, your comments are totally lacking in ass-yne...Beth, your comments are totally lacking in ass-yness - it is Kelsy. I'm so giddy about it and now I'm giddy about your hilarious comment, and all of this does NOT add up to Erica getting to bed on time instead of looking at pictures and reminiscing into the wee hours. <BR/><BR/>I kinda didn't want the cat out of the bag before she was done making calls, but your admirable bean guessed it and I cannot tell a lie. Now you'd best pretend to be surprised, though, because if I lose the bridesmaid gig over this, I will be one angry absolute ruler.E.A.Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08412076189760062421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10139378.post-1153196131435560252006-07-17T23:15:00.000-05:002006-07-17T23:15:00.000-05:00I suspect that this friend of yours might be one w...I suspect that this friend of yours might be one whose name starts with a K and rhymes with an "Elsy" ... and, if that's the case, I would like to express what VERY EXCITING news I think this is! How wonderful!<BR/><BR/>(And if I'm wrong and I just made an ass of myself ... well ... that's embarrassing! Of course, anyone's engagement should qualify as exciting news ... but I hope it's the same cause for excitement that I think it is. And I hope I'm not an ass.) ;-)Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05301328859168902464noreply@blogger.com